before i write this mini-rant, let me start by saying 1) i am not clinically depressed 2) i am not emo and if you're an insensitive jerk thinking HAHA LOSERRRR, then press alt+f4 right now, and be thankful that i don't know where you live. anyways lets get started. personally i hate long posts, so i'll get straight to the point. theres this girl i like. i've known her for two years, and we started seroiusly talking about a year ago. i liked her first, but then she didnt like me. one day, she fell for me, and we were both crazy for each other. it was the happiest few months of my life. i swear. then, all of a sudden, she falls out of love for no reason. she says shes not ready for a relationship, and lets go of me. here i am now ranting on a neopets forum. thats how low it gets. -_- she's my second girlfriend. the first one cheated on me, so i let go of her pretty easily, but this one is driving me crazy </3 whoo. mini-rant. anyways, i feel so depressed that when i think of it i think i have reached the peak of faggot-ness. i wake up each morning and feel dead. i've quit WoW, i've quit RO (almost), and yesterday i donated 50 codestones (got a lot of TY PMs which did make my day better haha), in attempt to quit neopets. i'm going to UCLA next year, but i don't even look forward to that. my favorite meals look like garbage, work feels twice as long, and each day when i open my inbox or look at my phone for txt messages, i dont see her name there and it kills me. i'm completely and utterly destroyed, no doubt. if you got this far, thanks for reading this. i'm not looking for your sympathy. my question for you is, on the gloomiest days of your life, what do you do to make yourself feel better? and if you've ever been played by a girl, how did you manage to get back on your feet? thanks again for reading - James
know the feeling mate :/ ended my most serious relationship last friday and i didnt see a reason to go on living. I had a talk to a few friends and what came out of it was, "Do you think you'll ever smile agian? do you think you'll be happy again? do you think, that at this age you find the girl. you've enjoyed the months together this young, just wait till future, when u can spend 5days just lieing in bed with a girl watching TV. that'll be so much better. You've got so much to look forward to" You get it all time, and u just say "yeh yeh" and ignore them. but if u look ahead, think and realise. you'll see that you can move on and be happy My easiest way was straight into a new relationship. But many people need time to build trust/let dwn their love and etc. Dont rush. take your time. But always try to smile Music helps a lot at times. just listen to hypa stuff and send urself happy if you needa talk more, if ive been helpful pm for my msn and ill try SoC
i know exactly how u feel, i liked this girl for 1year, but i wasnt sure if she liked me, and i thought of her everyday, until finally, i was goin to school 2 ask her out, and i moved cities. i couldnt get her off my mind, and its been almost 3 years since i've seen her. so i know what your goin through buddy.
Hey James. I'm assuming you're probably between the ages of 16 and 18. Either way, you're still young, and I completely agree with Son of Chilly. You have so much time ahead of you (whether you're in high school, or in college) to find another girl that will make your feelings for this one seem totally mediocre, and when you realize that, it'll probably make you feel more open to the change you're going through right now. Don't stop doing the things you love to do every day just because you fell out of a relationship. I can understand what you're going through, but stopping the things you love isn't going to make you feel any better. You need to keep doing those things to keep your mind busy and away from thinking about her. Stay social. Go out with your friends, go to school functions, work parties, school parties, etc. Those are the things that will expose you to whoever else is out there. Think of this as a good thing. Since you're going to be moving to college next year (I assume living on campus) then chances are you wouldn't even see this girl much anyway, which would probably put a strain on the relationship. And maybe it would have been a good idea if you broke it off with her anyway because who knows who you'll meet in college. If someone special came along that sparked your interest more than she does, then it'd be a huge pain to not have the freedom already to follow your heart with the new girl. Just try to look on the bright side of things, James. You will get over this, it's not the end of the world. It's a part of life (an unfortunate one, I know) and it's something that everyone goes through at some point, so you're definitely not alone. Sorry that was so long. :\ I hope it helped, at least.
Ending a relationship is hard, but listen to these people. As long as you're still young, things seem a lot worse than they really are. Give yourself time and eventually you won't think about her at all anymore - and remember that there are anonymous people on the internet who care about you too. <3
thanks for the kind hearted response guys you're right, it is amazing how even random people you don't even know about are willing to reach out. <3
Ooh, I second that! Playing guitar is a good way to relax. A friend of mine once explained it like, to channel your emotions into the vibrations of the strings on your fingers or something, and kind of try to like, imagine your feelings as the music, moving away from you and the guitar and disappearing. I don't know, it's kind of a soothing thought if you can understand anything I just said, lol.
It may not feel like it now, but eventually time will make the pain go away. I know from experience. I distracted myself by listening to a lot of music (avoiding the love songs) and pretty much bumming around with friends. I can't say you'll feel better straight away, but I hope you feel better soon. And yeah...chocolate and exercising releases endorphins. So maybe you could eat chocolate while on a jog.
i know how you feel, so i just decided to share my advice, because i forgot about her quite a while, then when i met up with my friend that went to her school and mentioned her name to me, i couldnt stop thinking about her, and still now, i look back and remember her. but trust me, you will find someone thats <3 s u just as much as u <3 them
Being a girl, I really can't stand in your shoes very much, and I don't want to make assumptions on a topic so sensitive. My advice as to what I would do would probably be horribly wrong for you. So, that being said, I'm always here if you need someone to talk to or just rant to. *hug*
just dont worry, u will find someone for you, you have your whole life ahead of you, discovering new things,places, and even people!
Agreed-- But my only advice would be to put yourself back out there, and meet lots of NEW people, because once you meet a new person that really lights you up, you're gonna be like "wow, that other girl didn't even COMPARE to this."
actually, she was the girl i got into, that made me go "wow, that other girl didn't even COMPARE to this" in the first place. so... its a bit more complicated for me :| she was like everything.
Trust me on this one, I've had about 3 or 4 relationships that lasted more than 6 months (one that lasted a year and a half...) and I've always felt that way-- that they were the most amazing, wonderful person ever, that nothing could ever compare-- Then I'd meet someone who was everything I loved about the last person and MORE-- and I was floored even more.
Ack dude, I know how you feel. I've been in this situation once or more every year after every unsuccessful relationship I've had. I usually tend to just sleep lots, hang out with friends and most of all meet new people. I've met alot of new friends through failed relationships, and those have even lead to new relationships. Music as well, I find music helps me alot too . I hope you feel alot better dude! Good luck!
Okay, I didn't read any of that because I'm really insensitive and couldn't care less, but I did notice the word "f**got," which is very offensive, even if you're referring to yourself or whatever. I don't know the context in which you used it, but just refrain from using such words please. kthxbai!
That's... real sad. I think you should see the real meaning of life... there will be other moments like that you can treasure. "Think of a happy place" my mother always use to say... =/.
lol thanks. i found a nice empty park in the middle of downtown, and i sat there for 5 hours literally, and just listened to my ipod. when it ran out of batteries, i took it off, and just listened to nature <3 its the most peaceful moment i've ever had even though there were cars whistling by haha. i had to ignore those but hey, it was still pretty awesome