Recurring Dream / Nightmare

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  1. Balthier

    Balthier Level III

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    This shit is getting old.

    Chris and I have been together for one year and five months. We grew up together, close friends, but there were always some major trust issues when we were friends. Now, we've been together since I was relocated back to Bossier City due to Hurricane Katrina. I love him more than anything, and we have a wonderful, healthy relationship. We stayed in an apartment together for the first year, then moved into is Grandmothers' house to ease financial burdens a little.

    Yet, I keep having this recurring Nightmare every single night of him cheating on me, completely betraying me and everything we stand for, and not giving a shit about it.

    What makes it worse, he's dream cheating on me with people we know. People that I already don't trust.

    What the hell does this mean, and what the hell can I do to get it to stop? I feel the nightmare itself is trying to plant seeds of distrust, when I want nothing MORE than to keep trusting my baby. Does this mean i've got some insecurity I need to face and squash? What? I have no clue.

    Damn my subconscience.
     
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    Dreams about a boyfriend cheating on you are most likely--though not always--fear-based dreams. There may be a nagging fear eating away in your subconscious that is breaking through in a dream, or you may have fear of abandonment issues rooted in childhood that are affecting your dreams and this would then be a signal for you to get a handle on this problem before it grows into something that could hurt the relationship. Or it could be that you noticed inattentive behavior towards you by your boyfriend, while he has been spending less time with you and being cryptic when you ask him questions, so a warning flag in the form of a dream has appeared to help you become more aware and start dealing with this issue.



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  3. puzzl3b0x

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    Talk to him about it, maybe they will go away? Clear everything up?
     
  4. pinkydog

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    completley agree, if you talk can talk it out it will solve or clear up the issue. Its what i do when me and my gf fight.
     
  5. Tricia

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    Only advice I can offer is to not treat your boyfriend as though he IS cheating on you. You need to remember that it's you creating these thoughts, not him.
    I had similar feelings of insecurity with my boyfriend who I've been with since I was 15 (I'm now 20 and we're still together :)). It's something you have to work through with yourself. At the end of the day, if this guy didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't be. Simple as that.

    Recognise yourself as someone great. Someone worth being with :)
     
  6. Laurababs

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    I used to have exactly the seem dream about my boyfriend it sucks :( we talked about it, i still have the dream but not so often now.
     
  7. FastBullet

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    talk to a psihoteraphist* or something :?

    *spelling ?
     
  8. rapidah

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    u mite be just worrying too much, i have trouble sleeping when i get nervous
     
  9. mckrazy

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    i used to get dreams similar to this, when stoped worrying about things and beeing a bit more at ease they all went away :D
     
  10. mynameisher0

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    If you really trust him dont worry about it and try to think about things that have nothing to do with relationships or cheating or anything close to that before you go to sleep.
     
  11. Lumbpu

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    I agree with both of you.
     
  12. Summertime_Blues

    Summertime_Blues Level III

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    Well there's know way you can stop his "dream cheating" because that's his subconcious. I think maybe you're just letting those trust issues you had when you were friends affect your subconcious. If you haven't seen any proof that he might be cheating on you, maybe you should see a psycologist or something because I'm not sure if that's normal.
     
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